Well the topic love is what we want to discuss about. But, there has been a popular thought that all of us believes. This is that, love oftens hurts. Well, I have something to say about this and that is what I want to share with all of you.
Love hurts but when? Well, a number of situation can lead to this situation. My love can leave me or it may happens that somehow our contact stopped. But, I am just thinking why that brings pain in our life? Did I expect something from her? Is my pain is bacause I am cheated or I did not get her?
It can be anything but has to be linked with the word EXPECTATION!
I expected something. May be, a beautiful future, some evening walk or anything. And I feel so bad because I am understanding that I am gonna miss those.
But, do all these relate to the feeling "love"? Obviously NO.
I am sure some of you are saying to me "what the hell these guy is writing?". And I have a question to all those guys.."Did you know that your love loves you when you fell in love? Did you expect anything when you first saw and started loving?". Answer is quite obvious and is NO.
If your answer is not No then rethink whether you loved or not..
So the point is that when relationship grows a number of expectation build up.. and that is making the problem.. creating a lot of expectation.. if fulfilled then its okay( not so much happiness) but if not then a lot of problem , pain and quarell, misunderstanding and every moments HURT your tiny heart. Shit! just think expectation just messed up your sweet relationship.. just wiped away your feelings for your love.. so pathetic I feel.
So why not stop expecting and be happy with the feeling that I have loved and I can love all my life whatever happens... Such a nice feeling.. and you can be happy with your feeling that "I have such a great heart! I am loving my love" and this may keep your relationship stable and romantic...
I really want some comments on this!
Well, I surely agree that expectations can really mess up your life if they are unfulfilled...but dnt u think u expect only from people u love? n people who, u are confident, will give importance to ur expectations and at least try to fulfill them..partially if not fully....so restricting oneself from 'expecting' is depriving oneself from the ability to trust one's beloved...and since this trust grows very naturally, it's yet more painful and 'artificial' so to say, to deliberately stop expecting altogether---the expectations that are a spontaneous expression of this trust and hence the love...
ReplyDeleteTrully speaking, Joyee, I felt confused after having my first look on your post.
ReplyDeleteBut why are you confusing Trust with Expectation. I know it is a spontaneous process because our mind always expects from our dear ones. But trusting has nothing to do with expectation.. or there is a link ? I think this is becoming an open question "the essence of expectation is our trust????
I don't know.. but they both are contradictory.
trusting someone is nice..but why expect?? but they seems come together!!! wow, some nice aspects are coming into focus!! so keep on posting!
Hello Bhuban,
ReplyDeleteExpectations stem from love and trust....even the most unconditional love must have wished love in return...isn't that expectation?? and i think it's pretty difficult to reach that level where one can love without being loved....after all u must know what love is before u can love....and please dont confuse this with madness---infatuations or i dnt know what to term it as---which prompts one to 'crave' badly for that 'love in return'....it stays for a while and changes to hatred afterwards.....
I am really impressed with the views of "Joyee" ....and I appreciate Bhuban too for the kind of analysis u did...
ReplyDelete@Joyee, Your comment was great! I am understanding the point you made. Hope you keep on commenting.. :)
ReplyDelete@Thread.. I expect views of the mass. so plz comment.
@Bhuban: nice to know that i could drive my point home....bt nt clear wt u really understood....some posts on that will be nice.
ReplyDeleteone must love but it has to be in a sensible manner... there is no point in forcing to make an unidirectional love successful.. that never happpens... bidirectionality is essential.. unidirectional love makes your life only miserable..
ReplyDeleteand @Joyee: start blogging..